I know I caught myself doing this, and I fought it as best I could. I didn’t want to miss Christmas while I was too busy getting ready for it, only to pause to catch my breath the day after, realizing I’d missed it. Again.
I know some who spend so much time getting ready for it, that when Christmas finally arrives, they’re worn out, and the next day (and for days after), they have almost a post-partum depression.
And this doesn’t only apply to Christmas.
I think we all spend so much of our time preparing and planning for the next big thing, that we miss out. We’re so focused on getting to tomorrow that we miss today.
And then we feel bad, or guilty, about missing so many today’s that we don’t enjoy the tomorrow we were striving for.
I wish I had an answer to give you, some one-size-fits-all solution. But we’re all different, and our circumstances our different, and what works for me may not even apply to you.
I can tell you what I’m going to do today, and maybe you can use it or alter it for yourself.
I’m going to slow down. I’m going to turn off this laptop, the Internet, Facebook, Twitter, etc. I’m going to enjoy our tree, and listen to Elvis. I’m going to go out later with my wife, drive through Starbucks for hot chocolate, and ride around looking at the lights.
The Twelve Days of Christmas actually come AFTER Christmas, so it isn’t too late. You haven’t missed it.
It isn’t too late. You haven’t missed your life, either.
I hope you have, and continue to have, a very Merry Christmas, and the Happiest of New Years!
As it turns out, this is a little of what I wanted to write about.
As humans, for some reason, we try to make things very complicated. We can’t just enjoy the season with family and friends, we have to make gigantic lists of things-to-do, setting ourselves up for almost certain failure with too much to do and not nearly enough time to do it all.
And we feel like losers if we aren’t able to manage it all. And if, somehow, we do manage to do it all, then we’re so exhausted that we miss what we were trying to get ready for in the first place.
This isn’t necessarily about Christmas. We do this to ourselves all year long. We get so busy, we don’t take care of ourselves. Or each other.
Sure, we try to. We seem to get this idea that if we’re busy enough, everything we’ll be okay. It’s like we’ve come up with a recipe for happiness, and “busy” is the main ingredient.
I know I tend to do that. I’m always looking for the recipe, or the instructions. And that goes for almost everything. If there aren’t a serious of steps to accomplish something, than it can’t be done.
Belief is like that.
We want to believe. We want our loved ones to go on. We want to talk to angels. We want all of it to be real.
It is. And all you have to do is believe.
Seems too easy, doesn’t it?
Yet, at this time of year, we expect this simple act of believing of our children. We encourage it, if not demand it. Santa is real if only you believe.
Once we get older, we lose that ability to believe.
In the past six months, I’ve done shows with a couple dozen different psychics, angel communicators, tarot readers and even an animal communicator, and all of them say the same thing – believe.
I’m not saying all this, expecting you to swallow some myth on faith, just because I say so.
Just believe in yourself. Trust yourself.
Honestly, if you think about things for a moment, let yourself be quiet and still, you know what the answers are. Not what you want them to be, but what they really are.
Love. Family. Money. Health.
We don’t want it to be easy. We want someone else to tell us what to do. To guide us to make the right choice. To give us the steps so we do the right thing for the right reason.
But we really already know. We just want someone else to say it.
There are cat posters and memes all over that tell you to believe in yourself and you can do anything. And many of us re-post those things on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, etc.
Somehow it’s easier to do that than to just believe.
Don’t get me wrong.
I’m not dismissing any of the guests we’ve had on the show. I think what they do is very important. Getting a message from an angel or spirit is a wonderful thing, and I’m not suggesting that isn’t valuable.
I’m just saying we don’t have to make things so complicated.
We decide we aren’t worthy. We decide it’s too difficult. We get overwhelmed.
And we need to stop that.
I know you’re busy, and I appreciate you taking the time to read this far.
And if I may, I’d like to ask you to take just a little more time.
You’re awesome. You’re loved. And you are SO worth it!
Ken Kessler has always been interested in psychic phenomena, and like Mulder on the X-Files, wants to believe. But like most, he tends to look for, and accept, rational explanations. (More)