Being a peaceful and loving person doesn't mean allowing others to take advantage of your niceness. Yet this happens a lot when you feel confused about the definition of being "loving." There's confusion that leads gentle people to be "too nice" to those whose intentions are ego-based.
This is why I wrote the book, "Assertiveness for Earth Angels" as a guide for those who were confused about their boundaries, felt guilty saying no, and wanted to help everyone to be happy.
Assertiveness is being loving honest. It is speaking sincerely from your heart in a way that honors the other person's feelings. It releases pent-up anger in constructive ways.
If you sense that someone is trying to take advantage of your niceness, the kindest thing you can do is to say No. After all, saying Yes just reinforces that person to continue their ways with you and other nice people. For your own health and theirs, say No to unreasonable requests. Stop trying to rescue people who don't need or want rescuing, so that your resources can be directed to those who are truly in need.
Here's a helpful prayer: Dear God, Thank you for guiding my relationships to be healthy, mutually beneficial, and authentic.
And here's a relevant scripture: Love must be sincere. Romans 12:9
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Doreen Virtue is a spiritual doctor of psychology and a fourth-generation metaphysician who works with the angelic, elemental, and ascended-master realms in her writings and workshops. Doreen is the author of more than 50 books about angels and other mind-body-spirit issues, including the best-selling Healing with the Angels and Messages from Your Angels books and angel oracle cards.